Have you ever felt like you have to do everything by yourself?

As moms, we wear a lot of hats—chef, chauffeur, counselor, calendar keeper, chaos manager, and so much more. Somewhere along the way, many of us pick up the belief that if we don’t do it all ourselves, it doesn’t count. We think asking for help is weak. Or worse—we’re afraid it means we’re not enough.

But I’m here to tell you: that belief is wrong.
And I’ve got proof.

In 2023, I accomplished 13 out of 16 of my personal goals. Big ones—like taking my daughter to an amusement park, launching my website, performing a ballroom dance routine, and taking my whole family to England.

And guess what?
I didn’t do it alone.

Asking for Help Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing—It Means You’re Strategic

Somewhere in our culture, we’ve equated independence with value. We assume the “real win” only happens if we suffer through it alone. But the truth is, all progress counts—no matter how much help you had along the way.

When I had my first baby, another mom asked if I had an epidural. I said yes. She replied, “Oh, so you cheated.”
If getting an epidural is cheating, then hand me my cheater’s trophy—because the goal was to safely bring a baby into the world. Mission accomplished.

The same is true with your goals. Whether you reach them with support or solo, they still count.

Here’s How I Got Help—and Got Things Done

Let’s break it down. Here’s how I enlisted help for just a few of those 13 goals:

• Took my daughter to an amusement park – My parents babysat my other kids.
  
• Planned a family trip to England – My husband, parents, and kids all pitched in with planning.
  
• Organized my office and garage – Hired a professional organizer (game-changer!).
  
• Launched my website – Bought a template and had a business coach guide me.
  
• Curated a car playlist – “Borrowed” one from a fellow coach and tweaked it.
  
• Maintained 2–3 coaching clients per month – My life coach held me accountable.
  
• Performed a ballroom dance routine – Needed a dance partner, coach, and studio.
  
• Photographed my kids – Bribed them with ice cream. Don’t judge.
  
• Worked on self-love and spirituality – Needed time, which meant childcare.
  
• Created birthday books – Almost couldn’t outsource (I’m a design control freak), but you could!
  

Whether it was a family member, coach, hired help, or some strategic bribery—support made all the difference.

The First People You Should Enlist? Your Kids.

Your kids are more capable than you think. My older three do their own laundry. And one day, my youngest surprised me by climbing up, grabbing the dryer sheets, and starting the dryer all on her own. Lesson learned: they’re watching. They want to help. And they rise to the occasion when given a chance.

Kids can:

• Help with chores
  
• Support you emotionally (“Did you finish that thing yet, Mom?”)
  
• Learn new skills alongside you
  
• Show up to cheer you on (yes, you deserve an audience too!)
  

“But I Can’t Afford to Hire Help…”

Let’s bust that myth.

Help exists on a spectrum. Some options cost money, but others are free—or much more affordable than you think.

Let’s look at a few examples:

Goal	High-Cost Option	Low/Free Option
Childcare	Full-time daycare	Swap with a friend, hire a teen, or screen time
Clean House	Professional cleaners	Delegate to kids or do a weekend blitz
Fitness	Personal trainer & nutritionist	YouTube workouts & walking buddies
Travel	Full-service planner	Use a free travel agent or ask family to help
Website Launch	Custom designer	Templates, DIY, or barter

Sometimes, just having someone watch your kids for an hour can create the space you need to knock out a goal that’s been lingering for months.

Why You Might Need a Life Coach

Here’s the truth: I wouldn’t have hit 13 goals without mine.

A life coach helps you:

• Get clarity on what you really want
  
• Create a realistic timeline (spoiler: you might need more time than you think)
  
• Stay accountable to your goals
  
• Identify and challenge your limiting beliefs
  
• Celebrate your wins (even the small ones)
  
• Hold space for what you’re thinking and feeling
  

Having a coach in your corner means you’re not just dreaming—you’re actually doing.

Who Can Help You?

Now it’s your turn.

Think of one goal, one dream, or even one feeling you’re trying to create.

Then ask yourself: Who can help me?

It could be your spouse, a friend, your kids, a coach, a tool, a template, a community—or yes, even Netflix (gasp!).

Help is everywhere. You just have to be willing to ask for it.

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You’re not weak for needing help.
You’re wise for knowing what you need.

You deserve to take up space in your own life, to chase your dreams, and to get things done—not someday, but now. Let’s get your goals off the back burner and into the done column.

I’m here for you.
I’m cheering for you.
And I’d love to know—who’s helping you reach your dreams this year?

Let me know in the comments or send me a message. Let’s go from dream to done, together.